2018年5月5日（星期六）
Saying No
Loving someone doesn't mean saying "yes" to whatever the other person wants. The basis of loving someone else is to know yourself and to know what you need. I know a woman who suffered very much because she couldn't say "no". From the time she was young, whenever a man asked her for something, she felt she had to say "yes" even when she didn't want to. It's important that loving another person doesn't take priority over listening to yourself and knowing what you need.
Loving someone doesn't mean saying "yes" to whatever the other person wants. The basis of loving someone else is to know yourself and to know what you need. I know a woman who suffered very much because she couldn't say "no". From the time she was young, whenever a man asked her for something, she felt she had to say "yes" even when she didn't want to. It's important that loving another person doesn't take priority over listening to yourself and knowing what you need.
说“不”
爱一个人并不代表必须答应对方任何的需要。 爱一个人的最基本条件就是你需要认识你自己，和了解你自己的需要。禅师认识一个经历很多痛苦的女人，因为她无法说“不”。当她很年轻的时候，她认为她必须说“是”（答应）即使她是多么的不愿意。很重要的是 ~ 爱一个人并不会比你倾听自己和了解自己的需要来得更为重要。
爱一个人并不代表必须答应对方任何的需要。 爱一个人的最基本条件就是你需要认识你自己，和了解你自己的需要。禅师认识一个经历很多痛苦的女人，因为她无法说“不”。当她很年轻的时候，她认为她必须说“是”（答应）即使她是多么的不愿意。很重要的是 ~ 爱一个人并不会比你倾听自己和了解自己的需要来得更为重要。
("How To Love", Thich Nhat Hanh, pg35)
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 to my dearest papa
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